Self-Care Tips for Highly Sensitive People: Creating a Routine That Supports Your Well-Being
Your Self-Care Routine, Reimagined: How Highly Sensitive Women Can Build Stronger Relationships
Self care is such an important lifestyle choice for everyone to consider. Without self care, you will eventually burn out. But especially for Highly Sensitive People, it is important that you take time to recharge so that you actually have something left to pour out into the world. But self care does not have to be only about bubble baths and facials.
Self care can involve intellectual, emotional, spiritual, physical AND social. Now before you run away, the social aspect can be interwoven into all the other areas, and it does not have to be exhausting. Let’s explore them.
Think about intellectual self care like things that stimulate the intelligent part of you- reading books, watching educational videos, having intellectually stimulating conversations with others and generally getting smarter. See, social and intellectual marry very well.
Emotional self care looks like doing things that take care of you emotionally. That could be going to therapy, journaling, working with a life coach, or even venting to a safe friend at the end of the day. See how we added the social there?
Spiritual self care involves engaging in activities that connect you to God. That could be going out in nature, reading your Bible, attending a Bible study or church services. The last 2 directly utilize social skills as well.
Physical self care involves taking care of your body- eating well, exercising, getting physicals and getting medical care when you don’t feel well. And if you would like to add the social aspect, you can exercise in a group or workout with a friend. If you don’t enjoy this, you may even have a friend be your accountability buddy. So you’re not necessarily working out with her, but you check every once in a while to spur each other on.
I’m sure you’ve never thought about adding the social aspect into your self care. You see, you need people. Even though you might get drained when you’ve been pouring into others all day, you need people because they can provide you with social stimulation, they give you advice when you need, they’re there for you to laugh with cry with and just not feel all alone in the world.
Boundaries, Baby! How to Protect Your Energy While Building Meaningful Connections
When dealing with relationships, it’s always important to know your limits. Although we all need people to combat loneliness, we also need time to recharge. And your limits will change on a week to week basis. Some weeks, self care will involve being by yourself, and other weeks, you might need to reach out to others to support you.
But start with a solid self care routine. Know your non negotiables, so that no one can push you around. Think about activities like having a nice morning routine, as well as a bedtime routine. That way you day starts and end in a non chaotic way.
And when you reach out to others, be clear about what you need from them. Be direct and specific. If you need a shoulder to cry on, say that. If you need them to just sit and be quiet with you, then say that. In some seasons of your life, you might not want to pick up your phone whenever it rings, and that’s okay too. But your loved ones do need you to tell them what you need so that they can help provide it.
To prevent complete burnout from relationships, there has to be a good balance between spending time with others and connecting back to yourself. That way you’re not always pouring into others.
From Overwhelmed to Overflowing: Self-Care Tips to Recharge and Reconnect
Self care does not have to be anything huge- just tiny changes in your daily routine can make a huge difference. Pay attention to what time you go to bed every night, what time you wake up, as well as what you do right before bedtime and when you wake up. Instead of grabbing your phone first thing in the morning, consider spending some time in quiet, or starting the day with a prayer or Bible study. Maybe listen to some calming music to start your day off right.
Throughout the day, be intentional about eating and drinking enough food and water. The way you treat your physical body will also affect your emotional state. Be careful about zoning out. Try to stay in the moment as much as you can. And when you need someone to talk to, do so. Vulnerability will help you get stuff off your chest while sttaying connected to others.
Choose your friends wisely. Safe friends understand the need for both connection and alone time. They won’t judge you- they’ll actually encourage you so that you don’t burn out.
When you are not completely exhausted all day, you will be able to better connect with the people around you, because you have more to give. If you want to be overflowing with energy and clarity, it starts with taking care of yourself first.
The Perfect Self-Care Routine for High-Performing HSPs: Less Stress, More Connection
Think of a routine not as a list of never ending obligations, but simply as a flexible set of guidelines that help you stay afloat and thriving. A good self care routine will involve multiple aspects- physical, social, emotional, relational and spiritual. Simply ask yourself how you can feed all those areas daily. You don’t have to pay equal attention to all the above areas- just as long as you’re neglecting any of the area.
Delete anything that causes you to feel stressed, overwhelmed, fearful or tired (within reason of course). To do this, take stock of all the activities you do within a week and ask yourself how you feel when engaging in the activity, as well as after the activity is complete. This would include social media scrolling, friends you talk to, places you visit, books you read and rooms within your home. After the week is over, notice the activities that aren’t seeing you well, and find a way to limit or get rid of them if possible.
Then think about the activities that recharge and bring you joy. Is it sitting alone in your bed, talking to a specific friend? reading something specific? Going outside? Do more of that. Sometimes we have to pay attention before we notice things that are good for us. The goal is to cut out as much stress as you can.
And for the stressful activities you cannot delete, is there a plan to delegate them to someone else, or delete them eventually?
Nurture Yourself, Nurture Your Relationships: The HSP Guide to Self-Care and Connection
What some highly sensitive people think his that they do not like people. But that is untrue. Because of the deep level of empathy that you feel, you might get easily exhausted when you are around too many people- especially people who drain your energy. So the best thing to do is to be intentional when you are building relationships. Does the person accept you for who you are? Do you feel comfortable around this person? Can you laugh, cry and just be vulnerable around this person or do you feel your wall going up when you're in their presence? Pay attention to how you feel when you're with them as well as when you are away from them. If you find yourself feeling excited and at peace with someone, then that is a good sign. But if you find yourself wishing the conversation will stop right now or sighing before you pick up their call, then that might be a red flag. It is quite possible to take care of yourself while keeping healthy relationships. It is just really about knowing when to connect and when to take some time to yourself. My suggestion is to carve out alone time every single week. This will give you time to reflect, recharge and regain the energy that you need to pour into others.
The better you take care of yourself and use your voice, the easier it will be to balance your relationship with others. Emotional wellbeing will enhance relationship satisfaction. People who feel good about themselves will be able to select health relationships.
Struggling to find balance between self-care and maintaining meaningful relationships? As a trauma therapist in Houston, I specialize in working with high-performing, highly sensitive women, including Black women, to create routines that support well-being and relationship building. Through brainspotting therapy, you can release the emotional blocks that prevent you from fully caring for yourself and connecting with others. Book a free 15-minute consultation call today with a Black therapist in Houston, and let’s get started on your self-care journey!
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My name is Ibinye Osibodu-Onyali. I’m a licensed marriage and family therapist in California and Texas. I help women who are struggling with trauma, anxiety and insomnia.
I also help couples learn how to speak each other’s language, date each other again and manage conflict in a non-painful way.
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